“It’s like you’re in a boat. You’ve got this one oar over here and it’s just rowing and rowing and rowing and is furiously fueled by everyone else’s expectations and that’s never going to stop but it’s kind of got you going around in circles because if you want to move forward you also have to row with the oar which represents how you see yourself” – From the Canadian TV Series Being Erica
We can often feel presured by others expectations of us, by what others believe is the right way to live or the right way to be. Family, friends and society can make it hard for us to find time to listen to our own heart and our own ideas. In the end our life is our life it is time for us to live, to expereince, to learn and to choose our own direction. Family, friends, society, religion and spirituality can help point the way, they can give us guidence, advice and direction. But in the end we need time to listen to our own inner voice and find out what our own expectations and ideas are. Both oars are important as we row through life the one that come from family, friends, soceity and religion / spirituality and the one that is our own. We take on the advice, ideas and expectations of others and then with our other oar (the one that represents our expectations and decisions) we begin to row towards the direction we have choosen. With each choice we need to take time to discover what we really think and believe. Listen to those around you but also listen to your own heart.
Till next time
Rosa and John